Dissociation is a coping mechanism that some people use to deal with overwhelming experiences. Experiencing trauma can also cause one to dissociate. When you are dissociated, you are generally disconnected or detached from your thoughts, emotions, sensations, or surroundings. In otherwords, you are disconnected from yourself. Is dissociation ever necessary?
Dissociation is a common way for people to deal with #PTSD and #CPTSD. However, you cannot remain in that state all the time, thankfully, and you are eventually forced to connect to the world around you and the world inside you. That reconnection is not always a joyful experience, and often is as traumatic as the original experience.
Who Dissociates?
If you have no idea how you felt in a particular situation, what sorts of emotions you experienced, or what your physical or emotional sensations were, you probably dissociated at some point to get through the experience.
I recently listened to a podcast interview with US Women’s Soccer player Megan Rapinoe. Her stories of dissociation got me thinking about when it is useful, when it is not and how do we know what to do? When is it really dissociation and when are we just responding to something in a healthy way?
First, let me share a summary of the interview.
Since the Women’s World Cup is now upon us, there was discussion about the last Women’s World Cup in 2019 when then-President Trump “Hate-Tweeted” Megan Rapinoe. She didn’t let it bother her. Ignoring nasty words sounds like a good plan to me, especially when you have the World Cup on the horizon.
That story segued into the fact that she had started seeing a therapist sometime between the last World Cup and this one, knowing that she was likely going to retire after the 2023 World Cup and wanted the transition to be easier.
She found out that she has been Dissociating. A Lot. She felt like it helped her get through being a professional athlete. From the pain of losing to the pain of, well, being an athlete in a very physical game.
It turns out that a lot of athletes and first responders dissociate.
It reminded me of a client I had many, many years ago. He was an ER nurse. He came to see me due to having “bullet proof” insomnia and constipation. I gave him a well-matched remedy and he began to sleep more soundly, and his digestion improved dramatically.
But you know what else happened? He found his job in the ER to be almost impossible. The remedy healed his tendency to dissociate, and he had been using that “skill” to make it through his job. It enabled him to work through witnessing all the trauma that comes with working in an ER.
He was good at his job. He was good at dissociating. It all started from an abusive childhood.
What To Do, What To Do?
What do we do when we need people to fill those jobs as ER professionals, EMT’s, Police officers, etc. They do need to develop a way to “get used to” what they see and experience. What happens when they learn to dissociate outside the job too? What happens when they can’t “unsee” anything and develop PTSD?
By the way, many people who choose jobs like this already know how to dissociate from their upbringing or a traumatic incident.
I Have a Solution
First, start with homeopathy so that the body and the vital force learn how to exist in the present moment.
It is a situation where repetition of the remedy would likely be required, especially at first. Homeopathic remedies work on an energetic basis and repeated exposure to a situation that was healed with a remedy can be an obstacle to cure. But a daily dose of the remedy can keep the healing in progress.
Once this is established, I would recommend working with a therapist to learn how to deal with the situations from which one would normally dissociate. This would be crucial in the healing process as well.
What Next?
Do you recognize yourself in this article? If so, schedule a complementary consult and lets talk.
https://www.simplypsychology.org/dissociation.html (viewed 7/22/23)